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How Our Bodies Can Help Us Process Buried Grief

It was more than the “Thanks for lessons, better luck with your next partner” kind of break-up. So much had happened. Sharp words were exchanged, painful memories were created and the dream of "us together' had shattered into a thousand pieces. Three months later, I was picking up piece #287. I felt emotionally congested. It was as if there was a thick glass between me and my experience of life. I knew that I had to do something different. I asked for help from the Universe. Then I waited for something to catch my attention. The answer came a few days later in the form of a promotional email for discounted Bikram yoga sessions. Without hesitation, I clicked on “Buy” and looked up the exact location of the yoga studio. Of...

Twin Flame Relationships: When The Magic Hits The Fan

The notion of twin flames has been a source of fascination for a lot of people, including myself. Just the possibility of finding the person who can take us to the highest levels of ecstasy is very tempting and maybe the highest reward we can expect for going through earthly pains. Twin flames are said to be perfect mirrors of each other, holding each others shadow and reflecting it back. It is said that we strive towards wholeness and that includes our shadow- disowned and unhealed parts. Because we are seeing or inner reflection in them, the interaction can be overwhelming. I have been fortunate to have had a relationship that fit that description. It turned my life upside down and brought up all of my issues to the...

The Split Between the Heart and the Mind

How do we heal the split between the heart and the mind? The mind is the bank of all our decisions and all our experiences. It works for our survival. The heart’s job is to help us with our soul expansion. The heart always points in the direction of love, growth, and oneness. The heart knows how to choose love over fear. The mind attaches to fear in order to stay safe. The heart says,  “Go for it. They need your gifts.” The mind says, "Do you know how many massage therapists are out there? I can’t survive in this economy as a small business owner.” We believe the mind. The risk feels too big. We go take a job to pay the bills and...

How to Turn Strong Negative Feelings About Someone into More Self Love

  If you are in a human body and you are not the Dalai Lama, it is highly likely that you have experienced an intensely negative reaction to someone at some point in your life.   In some cases, the feeling is so strong that you might feel guilty for having it. It’s if there is an evil twin inside of you, trying to break through your chest and wrap its hands around this other person’s neck and shake them up a bit. Or worse. I am familiar with this phenomenon, especially during times when I am in a growth spurt and facing my shadow is an...

Your New Man’s Ex is Your Sister

One of the skills Facebook has been teaching me is to stay neutral to what I see on my news feed. This morning I saw a quote that said, "Be the girl his ex-girlfriend will hate, his mom will love and that he will never forget". It was posted on a page I follow. It had many shares and likes. It really triggered me and I had to look into the why. To me, this quote is one of the reasons why there is so much animosity, competition and jealousy among women. Where did we learn that the guy is a prize we have to fight for? We are the prize. A woman in alignment with her power and her heart is the prize. It is not a man or his love that brings...

When change knocks at the door

You know, I dislike change just as much as the next person. Even good change- such as moving to a nicer house is stressful. There are some changes we fear making despite the negative ramifications of avoiding them. It's just human. Times of change can bring great gifts- such as accepting our vulnerability, reaching out for help, becoming aware of our fears and recognizing our strengths. All good, right? They also provide an opportunity to face our fears and dig deep into them so they lose their power over us- even if we aren't ready to take action yet. I have a personal story to share about a change that took me three years to make... Seven years ago, I left my...

Closing out 2015 with a Bang!

I resisted the cliché 'end-of-year post' with all my might but this topic kept popping up. So I decided to start typing and see what comes of it. I felt a strong need to review the year before I start a new one. I didn't want it to be an intellectualized list that made me feel like an informant under Nazi interrogation. I wanted to feel deeply involved in the process of reviewing my year, not to hide my truth from myself and shrink at the thought of it. So, I took a deep breath and typed “The Biggest Events of 2015”. Writing down the highlights of my year- both stressful and joyful- helped me recognize patterns that I wasn't able to name before. For me, the...

The Feedback Sandwich (That Doesn’t Cause Emotional Indigestion)

Whenever you have truth, it must be given with love, or the message and the messenger will be rejected.” -Mahatma Ghandi
We feel as powerful as our ability to speak our truth. I am saying this as someone who used to think that saying “No” was a sure way to reserve a front-row seat in hell. I was 33 and I couldn’t stop a guy from kissing me at a hot dog stand at 3 am in the morning with a piece of hot dog in my mouth. Not only it was gross but I almost choked to death. That was the moment I knew that I had to learn how to set boundaries, speak my truth and learn to say no in a way...

Want more self-esteem? Use your mouth differently

I used to be someone who didn’t keep most of her promises. In the heat of the moment, possibly due to my excitement of the connection, I would tell the person that I would do something for them or with them but wouldn’t follow through most of the time. I would watch myself make promises that I knew I wasn’t willing to follow up on but I made them anyway. I felt like a train out of control, heading towards a major crash. I just could not stop. The Wake-Up Call I started feeling badly about myself. I doubted my own word. If I said, "I am going to start doing yoga again", it felt empty inside. My words felt like lies as they dripped out of my...

A Heart-Opening Personal Serenity Prayer

Dear Source of All Things, Grant me the awareness to know when I have chosen fear over love and awaken the power in me to choose differently, Give me the ability to love every part of me, even the pieces of me that I think make me unlovable, Awaken me to my soul’s purpose so that I may always feel the flow of love come through me and out to others, Teach me how to wave away my fears and stay connected to the infinite stream of joy that I know is always available to me, Help me forgive imperfection in others (and in myself) so I can always hold a vision of them (and myself) in their highest potential and mirror it back to...